The Gift that Keeps on Giving: A Debt That’s Never Fully Paid

I recently posted on Twitter that I have 9 months left on the Connecticut registry. Here I am, coming to the end of a very long period in my life, starting with the pain that drove me to commit an offense in 2008 and ultimately branding me as a convicted felon on the registry beginning … Read moreThe Gift that Keeps on Giving: A Debt That’s Never Fully Paid

Registry and Career: Nobody Wins

In the fall of 2008, I was arrested in a police sting which resulted in a felony conviction in 2010. I was sentenced to five years of probation which included ten years on the sex offense registry. Immediately following my arrest, I was told by a professional recruiter and friend that he would never be … Read moreRegistry and Career: Nobody Wins

Words from An Anonymous 79 Year Old Registrant

I was approached by someone on the registry in another state who would like to share his story while remaining anonymous.  It’s not long, but he talks about the difficulties in finding a decent place to live, supportive friends who don’t know how to help, and judgmental family. Can anyone relate? Words of Anonymous: “My … Read moreWords from An Anonymous 79 Year Old Registrant

The Beginning (My Story – Part 3)

In the months leading up to my arrest, my entire world had reached a level of high stress. I mean, there’s stress that comes from everyday living and then there are times when the world seems to be imploding. The year 2008 was in the latter category for me. I wish I had been equipped … Read moreThe Beginning (My Story – Part 3)

Letter to Members of State Judiciary Committee

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Today, I mailed letters to 40 State Senators and Representatives on the state’s Judiciary Committee regarding a bill that would modify my state’s registry. When I testified in person, I spoke about the need for the bill to be inclusive and not leave others behind.  But, in my letter, I wanted a more personal touch. … Read moreLetter to Members of State Judiciary Committee

Advocating for Registry Reform (My Story – Part 2)

Once the Temple fall-out settled down (see part 1) somewhat, I knew what I had to do: speak up. I needed to find a way to use all of the negative events that happened to try to help others. For the most part, I’ve been anonymous in my advocacy as I work up the nerve … Read moreAdvocating for Registry Reform (My Story – Part 2)

Perpetual Shame (My Story) – Part 1

Fall Fiasco With 21 months left on the registry, life was going great and I was on a high! There was light at the end of the tunnel. Unfortunately, that light was an out of control train heading straight toward me. Picture this: Yom Kippur is our holiest day of the year. We learn about … Read morePerpetual Shame (My Story) – Part 1

To Tell or Not to Tell, That is the Question!

Meeting new people is a skill. Some people are better at it than others. Botch the encounter and you’re left feeling awkward and wondering about the missed opportunity. Done well, you can forge a new friendship.  Now add in all the implications of being on a sex offender registry. If you share your story too … Read moreTo Tell or Not to Tell, That is the Question!